In marriage, two individuals become one.  I recall when I was engaged to my then fiancé, my heart centered on the good things that I wanted for him.  I wanted him to succeed in the honorable goals he had set for his life.  My desire was to help him.  My hope was that my life would adorn his so that people would respect him and that he could have a ministry to help other folks get to know Jesus Christ and His Word in a more personal and dynamic way.  We would work toward the same objective.

I recall discussing our relationship with a co-worker who had also recently become engaged to be married.  As she listened, she just shook her head.  She had no such goals to help her future husband to succeed.  She wanted him to do well certainly, but her own professional ambitions would be a major thrust in her life.  Her attitude reflected popular trends of the day.

My own relationship with God through Jesus Christ prompted me to desire to glorify Him.  I could choose to do that as a single woman or as a married one.  Marriage, my deep love and profound respect for this special man, along with God’s leading opened the way for me to choose marriage.  In marriage, we could each glorify the Lord as individuals and as a couple.  Since our relationship with Christ was foremost, we were not only partners in marriage, but in ministry.  We had a single  focus.

I found the newness of a romance to be exciting.  However, infatuation, I learned,  is not long-lasting.  Love, commitment and loyalty to the Lord, His Word and to each other add the stability in a relationship than can weather the storms of life.

No marriage is 100% perfect.  But a single purpose in life forged the basis of the direction we would head for years.  I encourage those who wish to marry, look to the One who created marriage for guidance.  The Lord Jesus Christ can make marriage fulfilling in the good times and even when circumstances are not the best.

Proverbs 3:5, 6 states. “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not to thine own understanding.  In all thy ways acknowledge him and He will direct Thy paths.”

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